The saying “walk a mile in my shoes” is a popular phrase that essentially ask people to look at a situation from their perspective. Who ever is saying this is basically asking for sympathy.
“Please try to understand me and where I’m coming from, you know know how difficult this is for me.”
Bottom line, we all have a story. I tend to talk about why we should never be so quick to judge others because we simply don’t know what we don’t know. The person that we’re judging has rhyme and reason to their actions. Even if that reason is stupid.
I think we’re often caught up in how someone has “hurt” us and attack them for what they’ve done to us. But the ultimate first step in any difficult situation you encounter with another person is to take a step back and listen.
Empathy plays a huge role in enabling us to leave our sense of self and find truth and common ground. It seeks out love and trust before making assumptions and accusations.
To change others is to love. I think one thing is true, people tend to figure out for themselves what they need to do. If they don’t, it’s their life they need to account for, not yours.
Values are indeed a factor, but you have a choice to at least say, “their values and upbringing somehow has lead them up to this. We can forgive and move on.”
Don’t be the people that you have the urge to judge. Learn from them. Be patient with them. Love them, even if that means you need to emotionally step back from them for a while until they could understand.
We don’t know what we don’t know. People want to live a life that is void of notable foundations. Most people just don’t know how to live. Some people have something wrong with their minds that they can’t seem to do anything but rebel.
Whatever the case, remember, no one is perfect. Move on. Be patient, Love. You’re not perfect either.
The Quiet Onez 